Suggestions on a girl situation...?

aapriadi · 05-09-2006, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by slubu

So I've been somewhat seeing this girl for the past month or so and now she wants to "become exclusive" or whatever....basically asked to be my girflriend. Here is the problem however. Since our first meeting, she's put on about 15lbs. WTF? I've seen this girl thin which is what hurts so badly...she's probably an 8.5 normal weight, now she's like a 6.5. She's awesome otherwise, cooks for me, very nice, great in bed, etc...

Question is..what do I do about this situation? I don't have the heart to outright tell her to lose the weight, and otherwise I can't really date her seriously.

how old are you? she sounds like a nice girl to me, a wife material i'd say..but u know her better..if u're not serious with her bcoz of her weight, then better not continue with the relationship but find a good excuse to get urself out of it..if i were u, i'll say that i just wanna be close friends first or i'm too young for a relationship
or....if you're really serious and want things to go on, ask her out to the gym and work out together..or take long walks in the park, beach, etc.
dont mention the weight in anyway though coz its gonna hurt her deeply!
i hope this helps

BellasBmw · 05-09-2006, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by geeslice

Whoa, I'm not that much older than you... at least I don't think so. I'm 23... I'm just tired of assholes.

OO sorry bout that, i thought you were much older. I saw you were married or something, so i figured you had to be early 30s

Asiann · 05-09-2006, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by slubu

So I've been somewhat seeing this girl for the past month or so and now she wants to "become exclusive" or whatever....basically asked to be my girflriend. Here is the problem however. Since our first meeting, she's put on about 15lbs. WTF? I've seen this girl thin which is what hurts so badly...she's probably an 8.5 normal weight, now she's like a 6.5. She's awesome otherwise, cooks for me, very nice, great in bed, etc...

Question is..what do I do about this situation? I don't have the heart to outright tell her to lose the weight, and otherwise I can't really date her seriously.

Look at her mom or ask to see a picture and that may give you a good indication of what she will look like later. Do you take her out to eat often? Sounds like maybe she is not a keeper is those issues bother you. 15lbs is alot to gain but could depend on other underlying issues.

docbolo · 05-09-2006, 07:36 PM

FIVE SECRETS OF A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP FOR A MAN

1. Its important to have a woman who helps at home, cooks,
cleans & has a job.

2. Its important to have a woman who can make you laugh.

3. Its important to have a woman who you can trust and doesn't lie.

4. Its important to have a woman who is good in bed and likes
being with you.

5. Its very, very important that these four bitches don't know
each other.

slubu · 05-09-2006, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Asiann

Look at her mom or ask to see a picture and that may give you a good indication of what she will look like later. Do you take her out to eat often? Sounds like maybe she is not a keeper is those issues bother you. 15lbs is alot to gain but could depend on other underlying issues.

Just got back from a deposition so I'll try to catch up. I don't take her out to eat (or any other girl for that matter) so that's not the problem. I think I'm gonna let it run for another month and see if there is any improvement...

slubu · 05-09-2006, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by docbolo

FIVE SECRETS OF A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP FOR A MAN

1. Its important to have a woman who helps at home, cooks,
cleans & has a job.

2. Its important to have a woman who can make you laugh.

3. Its important to have a woman who you can trust and doesn't lie.

4. Its important to have a woman who is good in bed and likes
being with you.

5. Its very, very important that these four bitches don't know
each other.

magmd · 05-10-2006, 01:34 AM

Dood...sounds likes its time to do a rotation. Pull up one of the kitties from the pen....that is willing to play without commitment.

BTW....how the hell does one gain 15lbs in 4 weeks. Man...either this is her normal weight and was starving herself just before she met you...or she has only really gained 5 lbs.

And.......with your commitment issue goggles...she looks 15lbs+ overweight. Nothing wrong with dat....just don't fool yourself.

**cut the rope** if you are really bothered. If not...keep hitting it, avoid the issue altogether, until she gets fed up and breaks up with you.

ksfrogman · 05-10-2006, 01:40 AM

She's gonna gain more than that when you get her pregnant.

slubu · 05-10-2006, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by ksfrogman

She's gonna gain more than that when you get her pregnant.

Hahaha ah shutup. Man if I ever got a girl pregnant that may be the worst thing possible..

slubu · 05-10-2006, 10:03 AM

Here's an update if anyone cares: She called me last night at around midnight saying she was "drunk and horny" and wanted to come over. However, after she told me she was at dinner I lost all interest and just told her to go home and go to sleep.

Question maybe more so for the girls...can I just stop calling her? Or is it to a point where I need to actually tell her I don't want to see her anymore?

MoreCowbell · 05-10-2006, 10:17 AM

You could always sell the kid on Ebay and buy another Bimmer...

Just a thought

deutschmann59 · 05-10-2006, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by slubu

She called me last night at around midnight saying she was "drunk and horny" and wanted to come over.

...I need to actually tell her I don't want to see her anymore

Man, I wish a girl would call me up and tell me that. Maybe you should just use her as a sport...

Of course, at this point I can see you don't like her, so of course I'm not serious...

MB330 · 05-10-2006, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Snowman811

Go to the gym and eat healthy together. Leadership by example. Good luck!

DanielleS · 05-21-2006, 12:39 AM

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Originally Posted by NaTuReB0Y

and true gentlemen are very hard to find..........

I've only read through half this thread and Nature Boy seems to get it right.

If it's not working for you, be honest and tell her. (Don't speak badly of her. How would you feel if she saw your words?)

Also, I think something else is going on here. If you "really" loved her, I don't think 15 lbs. would bother you that much.

(Just an opinion from a woman's perspective.)

docbolo · 05-21-2006, 02:05 AM

since this has been bumped... How bout an update brother slubu?

slubu · 05-22-2006, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by docbolo

since this has been bumped... How bout an update brother slubu?

very ironic this thread got bumped, but she just left my apt 3 minutes ago. don't know really, the last two times i've seen her i havent' even had a desire to do anything sexually with her.

that, and i now met some other girl that's on my mind hardcore. that one may deserve its own thread though

docbolo · 05-22-2006, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by slubu

that one may deserve its own thread though

can't wait! these E90 owner relationship threads are the bomb

BellasBmw · 05-22-2006, 02:32 AM

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Originally Posted by docbolo

can't wait! these E90 owner relationship threads are the bomb

see i know im good at something! haha

slubu · 05-22-2006, 11:07 AM

As a funny side note, the girl that's the subject of this thread just bought an E90...ironic huh.

docbolo · 05-22-2006, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by slubu

As a funny side note, the girl that's the subject of this thread just bought an E90...ironic huh.

oh no.... Lets hope she doesn't have an internet connection and a desire to mod her E90...

puck724 · 05-22-2006, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by slubu

As a funny side note, the girl that's the subject of this thread just bought an E90...ironic huh.

oh god. dont let her get on here....lol...

geeslice · 05-22-2006, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by BellasBmw

OO sorry bout that, i thought you were much older. I saw you were married or something, so i figured you had to be early 30s

WHOOOOOA!

Def. not married.

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