My wife earns more than I do

2011CrazE89 · 05-21-2014, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by M_Six

Wifey makes about 50% more than I do. Not a problem with me. She's also a recognized expert in her field with two popular reference books out. She gets invited to speak at conferences and such and we often have the opportunity to meet well known authors. I'm proud of her and don't mind being Mr. Wifey's name here. We get to do a lot of traveling and our only debt is about 5 more years of mortgage.

What's not to like? (I know, my paycheck, right?)

Exactly! I say more power to her

954Stealth · 05-21-2014, 01:23 PM

I dont think it would be a problem for me. Traditional gender roles are really becoming obsolete and a relic of the past. There are many, many women in the workforce these days making more than their peers where this would have been possible less than a decade ago. How many female CEOs do we have now? You have Xerox, Pepsi, Yahoo, IBM, GD, Lockheed-Martin even Schnitzer Steel with female CEOs and executives and most of these companies have been traditionally male oriented. Hell, Mary Barra (sp?) is now the CEO of General Motors.

My point is that now this is a fact of our worklives and, in no way, should you feel emasculated or be ashamed of your wife and yourself making less. I'm quite sure you are, but you should be proud of her if anything for her achievements.

Plus, it never hurts to have some extra money coming in

S54dan · 05-21-2014, 01:27 PM

Wouldn't hurt my pride. I'm ready to retire at 28 years young

Litos · 05-21-2014, 01:29 PM

even if my wife made more money than me, in my household, we know our roles....

she's still gonna have her ass in the kitchen making food, washing dishes and washing clothes.....

I'm still gonna take care of the trash, take care of the cars, be the iron fist with the kids, open salsa jars, pay all the bills and sit my ass on the couch when I freaking want to without any pushback from the lady...

she knows that's how it is, just as I know how it is...

that's how we were both raised - it's all about understanding which roles you have in the marriage.....

#lovebeingmexican

05-21-2014, 01:33 PM

A RN is making double your salary? You work at Chipotle?

PSUSMU · 05-21-2014, 01:37 PM

lol ^

I'd love if my future wife was making near/more than me. Save up lots of cash then let her stay at home when having kids.

Lups · 05-21-2014, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Litos

even if my wife made more money than me, in my household, we know our roles....

she's still gonna have her ass in the kitchen making food, washing dishes and washing clothes.....

I'm still gonna take care of the trash, take care of the cars, be the iron fist with the kids, open salsa jars, pay all the bills and sit my ass on the couch when I freaking want to without any pushback from the lady...

she knows that's how it is, just as I know how it is...

that's how we were both raised - it's all about understanding which roles you have in the marriage.....

#lovebeingmexican

I have no words that can be used on a forum for this one. As a tip to others: this is not how to act.

I have a mexican friend, I'll be sure to ask him if this would fly in his household, but I think no.

bimmerfrk · 05-21-2014, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by index1489

A RN is making double your salary? You work at Chipotle?

In some locations RNs can pull 100+k Plus with bonus can get close to 150k.

2011CrazE89 · 05-21-2014, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by index1489

A RN is making double your salary? You work at Chipotle?

She made $87K last year. She nearly doubled my salary. If Chipotle paid me
$50k I'll gladly fill out an app.

954Stealth · 05-21-2014, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by bimmerfrk

In some locations RNs can pull 100+k Plus with bonus can get close to 150k.

and we're talking 3 days a week too a lot of the time

Lups · 05-21-2014, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by 954Stealth

and we're talking 3 days a week too a lot of the time

what's an RN, and do they have the naked offices?

2011CrazE89 · 05-21-2014, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by bimmerfrk

In some locations RNs can pull 100+k Plus with bonus can get close to 150k.

Exactly. Her $87K salary does not include her bonus.

954Stealth · 05-21-2014, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Lups

what's an RN, and do they have the naked offices?

Yes RN = Really naked. You'd have to work at Saint Nude's

Lups · 05-21-2014, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by 954Stealth

Yes RN = Really naked. You'd have to work at Saint Nude's

Well then, the picture I have of the american offices is just getting more twisted. Thanks again.

Sedan_Clan · 05-21-2014, 01:45 PM

Consider yourself lucky!

Litos · 05-21-2014, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Lups

I have a mexican friend

if he washes dishes, washes clothes, irons his own shirts and touches a broom/mop, he isn't Mexican...

and if he DOES all of those things, he's just a soft ass bitch....

there, I said it.....

Lups · 05-21-2014, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Litos

if he washes dishes, washes clothes, irons his own shirts and touches a broom/mop, he isn't Mexican...

and if he DOES all of those things, he's just a soft ass bitch....

there, I said it.....

Being an idiot is not a matter of race, it's a matter of mind.

Litos · 05-21-2014, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Lups

Being an idiot is not a matter of race, it's a matter of mind.

as if you saying "I have a Mexican friend" will cement anything you subsequently say about this topic

one single Mexican friend in boring ass Seattle is going to sway you to think a certain way !?!?

that's sad.....

I live in a 400 mile radius that is predominantly Mexican....

there are close to 3 million Mexicans living around me and I live 5 hours from the Mexican border...

the Mexican Culture in Texas is much different than the Mexican Culture in Seattle, trust me.....

lol @ your Mexican friend - you only have one !?!? sounds about par with your area...

Lups · 05-21-2014, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Litos

as if you saying "I have a Mexican friend" will cement anything you subsequently say about this topic

one single Mexican friend in boring ass Seattle is going to sway you to think a certain way !?!?

that's sad.....

I live in a 400 mile radius that is predominantly Mexican....

there are close to 3 million Mexicans living around me and I live 5 hours from the Mexican border...

the Mexican Culture in Texas is much different than the Mexican Culture in Seattle, trust me.....

lol @ your Mexican friend - you only have one !?!? sounds about par with your area...

As I said above, not a matter of race.

2012bmw7 · 05-21-2014, 02:12 PM

Call me old fashion but I prefer to be the provider, something about taking care of my woman! Plus I don’t want to be dependent on having to stay with someone because I’m comfortable with the lifestyle.

954Stealth · 05-21-2014, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Litos

if he washes dishes, washes clothes, irons his own shirts and touches a broom/mop, he isn't Mexican...

and if he DOES all of those things, he's just a soft ass bitch....

there, I said it.....

If you can't do these things then who is really relying on who??? It sounds like you are depended on her. Just sayin'

jlstyle · 05-21-2014, 02:23 PM

My wife used to make more than I did when we were dating and it bothered me a lot.
I was 2 years out working and it was her first job that got paid more by little.
It bugged the hell out of me and I started to hop firms to get more raise.
Money meant quite a lot to me back then because I had a student debt that she didn't have and I felt like a loser making less money. I know money isn't everything but it certainly was one of the thing I wanted to comfortably share with her.
Now I'm on my own and make almost triple and we both feel much better.

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