My wife earns more than I do

2011CrazE89 · 05-21-2014, 10:54 AM

I know some might have mixed feelings about this. When we first met 18 years ago she was bagging groceries. I’m proud of that fact that I married someone who worked 12 hours days; put herself through school at night while helping raise our son. We just celebrated our 15 year anniversary

Now a RN her salary nearly doubles mine. She worked hard to get to where she is and deserves it!

Be honest. How would you feel if your wife’s W2 put yours to shame?

Draven · 05-21-2014, 11:07 AM

My girlfriend is constantly sad right now that she can't contribute to our household as much as I do. When we met, she had a lot of debt that I helped her pay off. She's currently trying to get into Physician Assistant school, and once she finishes, she'll get a job out of college probably making 125-150% of what I make now. I keep reminding her of this.

On days where I'm feeling more supportive, I tell her we're investing in one another and this is what love is.

On days when I want to be a dick, I tell her I'm waiting for her to get that job so I can quit mine and be a bum on the couch all day.

deletedelete · 05-21-2014, 11:18 AM

I wish my future wife would make more money then me. I'm a neat freak plus I love to cook so I'd be happy to be the housewife and she can buy me car mods, cameras, watches, etc while I take care of the household. Gender roles are outdated and dumb.

apexit · 05-21-2014, 11:27 AM

My wife makes a good amount more than I do. Doesn't really bother me nor do I understand why it should.

Lups · 05-21-2014, 11:29 AM

I didn't marry my spouse 6-8 years ago (don't care enough to check the paper work, since it's just a date and a year, the life of boredom is daily) for his money, and he sure as hell didn't marry me for mine. We were students when we started dating, and we had absolutely nothing. Now, a few dead relatives and too much time spend playing the market, we are well off enough, and I still don't think he knows what is still coming our way.

Who gives a shit, if there is enough to go around? It's just money, the person you want to end up with doesn't even know it exists.

Lups

BLK235iNJ · 05-21-2014, 11:36 AM

IMO our responses are irrelevant... how does she feel about it?

If she's ok with it and it stills bothers you then I would do something about it

When my wife met me I had a steady full time job making enough for the 2 of us. When we found out that we were having kids I took it upon myself to become the head of household. in the end just be happy that's all that counts.

Lups · 05-21-2014, 11:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BLK235iNJ

IMO our responses are irrelevant... how does she feel about it?

If she's ok with it and it stills bothers you then I would do something about it

When my wife met me I had a steady full time job making enough for the 2 of us. When we found out that we were having kids I took it upon myself to become the head of household. in the end just be happy that's all that counts.

So true.

Nkc · 05-21-2014, 11:43 AM

What? Woman work for pay now? Lol.

Who really cares who makes more. I wished my wife was able to bring in the dough too so we would achieve our dreams in half the time. But in reality if my wife made more, then I probably should work a little harder. Just sayin.

2011CrazE89 · 05-21-2014, 11:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BLK235iNJ

IMO our responses are irrelevant... how does she feel about it?

If she's ok with it and it stills bothers you then I would do something about it

When my wife met me I had a steady full time job making enough for the 2 of us. When we found out that we were having kids I took it upon myself to become the head of household. in the end just be happy that's all that counts.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lups

So true.

Exactly. We're both very happy. I'm glad I met someone who has such a drive to better herself.

325rider · 05-21-2014, 11:51 AM

gender roles are r3tarded pardon my french. Don't worry about it. Sounds like your more competitive because she is your significant other, not your female wife.

If you were g a y, which u might be, and were married to a man, you would probably have just made this same thread titled "My other half earns more than I do".

Either that, or I'm blatantly wrong.

Discuss

KwlAznKid · 05-21-2014, 11:58 AM

I say good for her, while as a male (and let's be honest here, males are prideful) I would want to earn more than my wife BUT I would want to do so by improving myself and earning more not by hindering her earnings in anyway

(I'm not saying you do, I'm just saying my thoughts on this)

UncleWede · 05-21-2014, 12:01 PM

Keeper!!!

SHE may begin to resent you though, if you haven't made any personal improvements. Sounds like she is working her ass off, and you are just status quo. With that drive, she may be driving somebody else too.

upstatedoc · 05-21-2014, 12:01 PM

Definitely inb4 the ban.

2011CrazE89 · 05-21-2014, 12:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

Definitely inb4 the ban.

Lol me too

Lups · 05-21-2014, 12:05 PM

I just don't get why the male should make more? A friend of mine is playing the stay at home dad role now, the wife wanted to work, and they didn't want to put the child to a day care.

John 070 · 05-21-2014, 12:05 PM

No offense, but RNs do not earn all that much--certainly not enough to drive a BMW comfortably.

http://www1.salary.com/registered-nurse-Salary.html

John 070 · 05-21-2014, 12:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lups

I just don't get why the male should make more? A friend of mine is playing the stay at home dad role now, the wife wanted to work, and they didn't want to put the child to a day care.

imho it's about compatibility. Even if both spouses were physicians, typically the male earns more. And a female physician doesn't date a male nurse.

Anybody is free to do anything, but how often do you see a man riding on the back of a bike when the female drives?

Lups · 05-21-2014, 12:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by John 070

imho it's about compatibility. Even if both spouses were physicians, typically the male earns more. And a female physician doesn't date a male nurse.

Anybody is free to do anything, but how often do you see a man riding on the back of a bike when the female drives?

If we can replace the bike with a car, I can give you at least one example straight away.

grimlock · 05-21-2014, 12:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 325rider

If you were g a y, which u might be, and were married to a man, you would probably have just made this same thread titled "My other half earns more than I do".

Either that, or I'm blatantly wrong.

Discuss

depends if they are the 'top' or 'bottom'..

Quote:

Originally Posted by upstatedoc

Definitely inb4 the ban.

why???

Billup · 05-21-2014, 12:20 PM

My girlfriend doesn't work right now. I guess I'm supposed to support her for the next 4 years while she goes to school to get in debt with student loans to be an anesthetist.

She better make more than me at that point, I need a couple years off.

Litos · 05-21-2014, 12:24 PM

my wife "should" be making more than me right now, but my salary is double what she makes...

when my wife starts making more than me, we will both be elated....

M_Six · 05-21-2014, 12:42 PM

Wifey makes about 50% more than I do. Not a problem with me. She's also a recognized expert in her field with two popular reference books out. She gets invited to speak at conferences and such and we often have the opportunity to meet well known authors. I'm proud of her and don't mind being Mr. Wifey's name here. We get to do a lot of traveling and our only debt is about 5 more years of mortgage.

What's not to like? (I know, my paycheck, right?)

05-21-2014, 10:54 AM	#1
2011CrazE89 Moved on 123 Rep 166 Posts Drives: 2011 Z430i & 2015 MB C300 Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: South Florida iTrader: (0)	My wife earns more than I do I know some might have mixed feelings about this. When we first met 18 years ago she was bagging groceries. I’m proud of that fact that I married someone who worked 12 hours days; put herself through school at night while helping raise our son. We just celebrated our 15 year anniversary Now a RN her salary nearly doubles mine. She worked hard to get to where she is and deserves it! Be honest. How would you feel if your wife’s W2 put yours to shame?
	Appreciate 0 Tweet Quote

05-21-2014, 11:07 AM	#2
Draven C7Z - Darkside 50 Rep 226 Posts Drives: '18 Z06 M7 Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Merrimack, NH iTrader: (0)	My girlfriend is constantly sad right now that she can't contribute to our household as much as I do. When we met, she had a lot of debt that I helped her pay off. She's currently trying to get into Physician Assistant school, and once she finishes, she'll get a job out of college probably making 125-150% of what I make now. I keep reminding her of this. On days where I'm feeling more supportive, I tell her we're investing in one another and this is what love is. On days when I want to be a dick, I tell her I'm waiting for her to get that job so I can quit mine and be a bum on the couch all day.
	Appreciate 2 Quote

05-21-2014, 11:18 AM	#3
deletedelete Major General 361 Rep 5,873 Posts Drives: m Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: usa iTrader: (14) Garage List 2013 e92 M3 [0.00] 2011 e93 M3 (sold) [0.00] 2009 335xi (sold) [0.00]	I wish my future wife would make more money then me. I'm a neat freak plus I love to cook so I'd be happy to be the housewife and she can buy me car mods, cameras, watches, etc while I take care of the household. Gender roles are outdated and dumb. __________________ ---> Click For xi/xDrive Suspension Compatibility List <---
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 11:27 AM	#4
apexit Captain 214 Rep 981 Posts Drives: 15 SO M3 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: northern nj iTrader: (-1)	My wife makes a good amount more than I do. Doesn't really bother me nor do I understand why it should.
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 11:29 AM	#5
Lups ... 11825 Rep 15,400 Posts Drives: I don't own a car. Join Date: Mar 2014 Location: Lost as usual iTrader: (0)	I didn't marry my spouse 6-8 years ago (don't care enough to check the paper work, since it's just a date and a year, the life of boredom is daily) for his money, and he sure as hell didn't marry me for mine. We were students when we started dating, and we had absolutely nothing. Now, a few dead relatives and too much time spend playing the market, we are well off enough, and I still don't think he knows what is still coming our way. Who gives a shit, if there is enough to go around? It's just money, the person you want to end up with doesn't even know it exists. Lups
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 11:36 AM	#6
BLK235iNJ Captain 182 Rep 926 Posts Drives: m235i,13MustangGT,84C10,99A8 Join Date: May 2014 Location: NJ iTrader: (0)	IMO our responses are irrelevant... how does she feel about it? If she's ok with it and it stills bothers you then I would do something about it When my wife met me I had a steady full time job making enough for the 2 of us. When we found out that we were having kids I took it upon myself to become the head of household. in the end just be happy that's all that counts.
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 11:43 AM	#8
Nkc NOOB 1601 Rep 1,356 Posts Drives: Cars Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: @BMWclassicdivision iTrader: (0)	What? Woman work for pay now? Lol. Who really cares who makes more. I wished my wife was able to bring in the dough too so we would achieve our dreams in half the time. But in reality if my wife made more, then I probably should work a little harder. Just sayin.
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 11:51 AM	#10
325rider Captain 36 Rep 826 Posts Drives: '11 e90 M3 6mt Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Miami, Fl iTrader: (1)	gender roles are r3tarded pardon my french. Don't worry about it. Sounds like your more competitive because she is your significant other, not your female wife. If you were g a y, which u might be, and were married to a man, you would probably have just made this same thread titled "My other half earns more than I do". Either that, or I'm blatantly wrong. Discuss __________________ Check out my YouTube Fitness Channel if your into that https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoz...XQVuG0se8cTpUQ
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 11:58 AM	#11
KwlAznKid Brigadier General 352 Rep 3,036 Posts Drives: BMW/MERCEDES/PORSCHE Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Los Angeles/Fremont USC/UCSD Alum iTrader: (6)	I say good for her, while as a male (and let's be honest here, males are prideful) I would want to earn more than my wife BUT I would want to do so by improving myself and earning more not by hindering her earnings in anyway (I'm not saying you do, I'm just saying my thoughts on this) __________________ BMW E93 M3 / Mercedes Benz W209 CLK500 BMW E64 650I(sold) / BMW E92 328I(sold) / BMW E46 M3(sold) / BMW E92 335I(sold) Porsche 996 911 C2(sold) / BMW E46 325CI(totaled)
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 12:01 PM	#12
UncleWede Long Time Admirer, First Time Owner 17963 Rep 9,377 Posts Drives: G01 X3 M40i Dark Graphite Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Oxnard, CA iTrader: (0)	Keeper!!! SHE may begin to resent you though, if you haven't made any personal improvements. Sounds like she is working her ass off, and you are just status quo. With that drive, she may be driving somebody else too.
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 12:01 PM	#13
upstatedoc I'll get back to you 7556 Rep 2,132 Posts Drives: blue streak Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: not downstate iTrader: (2)	Definitely inb4 the ban. __________________ 2018 Stinger GT 2009 E90 N51 /Active Autowerke Stage 2 tune/BMW Performance Exhaust/ Countermeasure enthusiast.
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 12:05 PM	#15
Lups ... 11825 Rep 15,400 Posts Drives: I don't own a car. Join Date: Mar 2014 Location: Lost as usual iTrader: (0)	I just don't get why the male should make more? A friend of mine is playing the stay at home dad role now, the wife wanted to work, and they didn't want to put the child to a day care.
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 12:05 PM	#16
John 070 Lieutenant General 1705 Rep 14,829 Posts Drives: 335i cpe Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: ZSP/ZPP/ZCW iTrader: (0)	No offense, but RNs do not earn all that much--certainly not enough to drive a BMW comfortably. http://www1.salary.com/registered-nurse-Salary.html
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 12:20 PM	#20
Billup Banned 472 Rep 928 Posts Drives: Your mum crazy. Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Baconopolos Island iTrader: (0)	My girlfriend doesn't work right now. I guess I'm supposed to support her for the next 4 years while she goes to school to get in debt with student loans to be an anesthetist. She better make more than me at that point, I need a couple years off.
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 12:24 PM	#21
Litos Banned 220 Rep 2,991 Posts Drives: 2012 Challenger RT Junk Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Houston/Pearland iTrader: (1)	my wife "should" be making more than me right now, but my salary is double what she makes... when my wife starts making more than me, we will both be elated....
	Appreciate 0 Quote

05-21-2014, 12:42 PM	#22
M_Six Free Thinker 16804 Rep 7,454 Posts Drives: 2016 MB GLC300 4matic Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Foothills of Mt Level iTrader: (0)	Wifey makes about 50% more than I do. Not a problem with me. She's also a recognized expert in her field with two popular reference books out. She gets invited to speak at conferences and such and we often have the opportunity to meet well known authors. I'm proud of her and don't mind being Mr. Wifey's name here. We get to do a lot of traveling and our only debt is about 5 more years of mortgage. What's not to like? (I know, my paycheck, right?) __________________ Mark markj.pics "There is no shame in dropping fruit in your glass." -UncleWede
	Appreciate 0 Quote