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Originally Posted by mylydiamy
Hello all,
I finally decided to end my 19 years of unhappy marriage (shoud have done it long time ago but it is too late for that). Yesterday I talked to a divorce lawyer ($400 for 1 hour consultation  ).
A few words about my situation: I am 42 years old. I have a 14 years old daughter. My wife lost her decent paying job 2 years ago, and now making almost 1/3 of what she used to make. Although she could make similar amount of money that she used to but she is too lazy to take a job which would require longer commute. I make about 6 times more than she does. The lawyer told me I have to pay PERMANENT alimony around $3500 and $1200 child support (join legal custody, but my wife would have physical custody). This is like $56K a year as long as she is not remarried. It is like a brand new base M3 every year.
I was hoping 2-3K a month but for maybe 3-5 years, never thought about lifetime.
I worked my ass off to get to where I am while she was parting with her friends. Financially she will be better in situation than me if I can not do anything about it. I am so pissed off that I am even thinking about quitting my job (computer programmer) and just live on my savings for a while so that she couldn’t enjoy my money. I know this sound stupid but I am so pissed of that I am afraid I will not be able to use my logic. Just thinking about she is enjoying my hard earned money with her future boyfriend is enough to make me go insane  . Now I understand why people’s life go upside down after divorce.
Anyone can give me any advice in order to reduce the amount or length of the alimony?
Thanks |
I went through a similar situation but was only married close to ten years.
To avoid paying her anything I could have moved out of country. She would get absolutely nothing and no child support.
Basically you could walk and not pay a dime. As shitty as that sounds that is an option.
I would get remarried and move out of current area.